Remember when you were a child and your parents paid close attention to who you hung out with? Your circle of friends? Whether that’s who was allowed to come over for a play date, what school you attended or even what neighbourhood the family lived in, all was consciously or subconsciously chosen based on the perspective of ‘good influence’. Parents know that bad company corrupts good morals and so they strive to be and have good role models in their kids’ lives.
Then, we kids grow up and life happens. We follow in our parent’s foot steps, trying to be intentional about who gets to play with our kids and we encourage them to be a good example to others.
But when did we stop caring about who we hang out with, whom we allow into our inner circle and ultimately give the power to influence us?
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Jim Rohn
Maybe you have never thought about this, but the people closest to you will in one way or another influence and determine how you think, how you act, how you speak or the jokes you laugh at, and ultimately how successful you will be.
And when I talk about success, I am not talking about accumulating stuff. I am talking about the person you are becoming and the tremendous influence you have the potential to reach.
This is true on a professional, financial, spiritual, physical, social and intellectual level.
Being around negative people who are stuck in the ruts of mediocre and paralyzed by change, doesn’t energize anyone, and not all people, you spend time with on a daily basis will be of the ideal role model kind. To some you might be that very role model, and how exciting to have the opportunity and be an inspiration to those around you?
But what I am talking about here, is YOUR inner circle. Who do you surround yourself with? Who are your role models and who are you learning from? How intentional are you about it on a daily basis?
Herein lies the secret to your success.
Pay any price to stay in the presence of extraordinary people. Mike Murdock
John Maxwell refers to this as the Law of the Inner Circle, which says that a person’s potential is determined by those closest to him. Great inner circles do not come together by accident. We must be very strategic in creating our inner circle and never stop improving it.
Just like yourself, everyone around you needs to be on a journey of growth. Challenge yourself and your friends to never stop learning and desiring wisdom.
Don’t be trapped around toxic people but spend time around people who are already living the life you want to live.